I was angry, but now I’m not.
When I share my story of victory over anger, people are always curious to hear how it happened.
Actually, “curious” is the wrong word, “desperate” is more accurate.
Accurate because people know anger is about to cost them the most precious things in their lives and they are desperate to avoid loss. Or, they realize they will never get those precious things only available to people who are not ticking time bombs or quietly grinding their teeth 24/7.
Desperation is appropriate. Anger needs to go, and it needs to go soon, because you only get so many chances before it costs you everything.
Fourteen years ago, I remember being absolutely livid because Tamara was taking a long time getting out to the car with our 4 month old baby. I was honking the horn, huffing and puffing so much the windows were fogging up. When they did get settled in the car I slammed it into reverse and shot out of the driveway at warp speed – right over the snowbank on the other side of the road. I swore, shot her a dirty look, and said “See what you did?”
The rest of the Sunday morning drive to church was relatively uneventful.
The insanity continued for 5 more years. Then, Tamara gave an ultimatum. I needed to stop being angry or I would lose some very precious things. I could tell she meant it and that was the day I got desperate enough to get serious about anger.
I was serious about beating anger, but didn’t know how. Now I do and I want to share it with you. So, I’ve taken my story and re-worked it here into 6 steps for removing anger from your life.
Because it doesn’t have to be ruining your life.
Listen, I know what life is like when the next five minutes are going to be dangerous because of what is welling up inside of you.
I know how it feels to ruin a weekend getaway with one angry word.
I know how it feels to be really tired of making people you love cry.
I know how it feels to see the person in front of you shrink way from you.
I know how it feels to embarrass yourself in public.
I know how it feels to be incapable of enjoying what you have because anger numbs every one of your senses.
Thank God, I also know how it feels when none of that happens anymore.
And you can too.
Come back next week for Step 1.